What we say to our daughters matters because it teaches them what to value.

“Language is the repository of our prejudices, our beliefs, and our assumptions.” ~ Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Our language imprints the world of our daughters and our sons and they use these imprints to navigate this world.

 Reflecting on the conversation that I had with an amazing 10 years old girl yesterday, she reminded me of the power of our words.

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Here is her happening

“One of her classmate, this 10 years old boy says that he loves and that now they are together. She added further that she understands none of this and for her, he is her friend. She wants to tell him that they are friends but she is hesitant for her intent is not to hurt him, so she has kept quiet for days now.”

 

I queried gently, “Do you know what is this love that he talks about? “

She replied “I have no clue about the love that my friend speaks of and I am afraid that he will be hurt  and disappointed if I tell him bluntly on his face that we are friends and play buddies.”

 

We drilled further for some minutes and what came up next was her fear of “hurting him for not liking him the way he likes her.”

 

Here is what I told her, holding myself as witness and reminding that I would not say less to any little girl and boy out there.

“You are not responsible for how others feel. You have every right to choose who to like and not like, who to welcome in your space or not. This is your birth right. Your job is not to worry about how others will feel if you do not join them in their ride. Your job is not to fulfill others’ expectations. Your job is to be honest with yourself and your heart, even if this may scare you and even if this may put people off. You are not responsible for how others feel in friendships, everyone has a right to visions, assumptions and ideas. You my precious one, you are called to live by your own. People will be more hurt in the end when you get tired carrying the masks of faking, they will not understand why you faked for so long. Truth is, in your attempt to please them, you faked.

So know that you are not responsible for how others feel, not even how your parents feel.

Your responsibility begins and ends with yourself. Your responsibility begins with what, why, where, who, when, and how you say, do and be.

This is all under your creative reach.

 

Just because someone felt hurt because of his/her unmet expectations, know that this does not make of you an unworthy person and/or bad human.

You do not have to invest energy in fixing how others feel.

Hold space for others to feel what they feel and allow yourself to feel what you feel, even when it is not comfortable.

As a girl, you have the right to choose who to allow in your space and not. When things do not sit properly with you, when your heart and your pinky feel otherwise, heed to yourself even if the whole world roars; heed to yourself and know that you are always led, guided, protected and deeply loved.

 

As a daughter of the world and a woman in rise, know that you are called to no more carry the burden to pleasing this world; you are called to release the drama of becoming something else for this world; you are called to play a role beyond this world’s expectations.

You have every right to it.”

 

For every Mother, Father,

Aunty, Uncle,

Sister, Brother,

 Grandmother, Grandfather,

Guardian, Teacher, Fellow Seers

Who will read these words,

I invite us to spread these words,

I invite us to ripple these words across the globe

 

Language is a legacy that we have been passing on from daughters to daughters since the time of time.

A word is more than just a word.

The intent, the intricate definitions, the beliefs and agreements of the words can either caged our daughters or teach them to soar.

What we say to our daughters matter, because it teaches them what to value.

Our daughters will be the partners of tomorrow

What kind of partnership do we want to plant?

What is our vision?

What is our intention?

Where do we stand amidst this?
What do we need to hear about ourselves, for ourselves?
Do we have the right to choose?
 

Much love from my heart to yours

 

Megha Venketasamy

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What Else....

Our beliefs and agreements know their way to hide deep within our subconscious, often covered under layers until one day, the Pandora box opens wide and there is no running away.

 

These past two months have been physically straining and challenging. My vitamin D hit bottom low once again (I was first diagnosed with this issue end 2016). This while the symptoms were more painful: slowed digestion, insomnia, lingering tiredness, gastric fire imbalance, loss of hair, deep sadness ,agony, joint pains, excess gas and I could go on this endlessly long list.

Image Source: Madhura Srinivas, September 2018,

Image Source: Madhura Srinivas, September 2018,

My choice was and is to stay focus on aligning my body with that which is natural. I have been sunbathing at every possible opportunity since. Much has shifted since, my energy is rising each day and so is my sense of groundedness.

 

These past two months I have walked myself through a process, I have called it the “What Else Process”

Here is what I did exactly and what was uncovered and revealed to me through this process.

 

I invite you to give yourself permission to walk through this process at your pace in your own time.

 

Step One - Questioning your answers

The more I sunbathed everywhere and I am still doing so, the more I noticed that people on this island (Mauritius), they shy away from the sun. I started questioning why do people do that?

Why do we run to a shady place instead of glazing in the sun?

 

Eventually I started questioning myself, “Why did I shy away from the sun?”

And I would journal my answers

Each time an answer popped in, I would journal it and I will ask “what else?” and I would move on until the next answer popped in.

Here are some of the answers

I don’t want to be sticky on my way to a meeting

I don’t want to be smelly sweaty on my way to a meeting

I will be dehydrated

I will end up with a headache

I don’t want to have a bad sun burn

I don’t want to feel physically hot

And the list went on until last week, an answer popped in and up to now, there has been no other answer beyond this answer

“I don’t want to become darker”

 

This answer hit me hard and I sat with it for days. “I don’t want to become darker.”

 

I called this my meta-answer, there is no answer beyond this one. This is the key that will lead me to something bigger.

This answer speaks of aversion, whatever it is that I was trying not to be and become.


 

Never underestimate the act of questioning one’s answers.

We are too often veiled by our agony that we do not understand that

“the problem is never the problem.”

 

But I did not stay here, I went deeper. I coached myself. You may choose to do same but I  gently suggest that you reach out to someone you trust, someone with whom you may an open heart conversation.

 

The depth of our conversation depends on our self opening.

 

Step Two - Association

How is “staying in the sun” connected to becoming darker?

I associate staying in the sun with becoming darker.

We are always associating one thing to another and this carries the power to shape our life in ways.

I was told and taught over and over again as a child, too much staying in the sun browns you and I ended up making this part of my reality and agreements.

 

I am inviting you to pause and start checking,

“What do I associate with whatever is happening in life right here right now?”

Our associations dictate experience.

 

Step 3 – What are the beliefs?

The most important part of what was uncovered for me. I asked myself what is above this agreement of “not wanting to become darker?”

Here is what unfolded for me:

Dark skin means ugliness.

 

This belief was cocooning in my subconscious for years.

For years, I have been vocal about whitening products. I am against all forms of skins whitening and hurting products and processes. I do not believe in changing one’s skin color to fit certain norms yet deep within my innerness, I been carrying this belief “dark is ugly”.

 

Step 4- Whose belief is this?

It belongs to my grandparents (may their soul rest in peace). My grandparent believed that dark was ugly and they spitted this belief to all their children and grandchildren.

A dark child is an unwanted child.

A dark child is not promised for a bright future.

A dark child will never be enough.

A dark child is an ugly child.

 

My parents, my uncles and aunties never supported such belief but somehow the fertile soil of my childhood absorbed it and this impacted hugely on my growing up as a child, a young woman and where I stand today.

 

Step 5: Re-claiming, Re-conciliating, Re-membering and Re-writing

In a process of uncovering whatever it is, the most crucial part is that of calling it back.

Re-claiming: I called back this belief and agreement about dark skin and skins of all shades. They are not mine. They are not my property. They do not align with my core values

 

Re-conciliating: It does not mean that I have to find others’ goodness in what they did but rather holding space for what I went through as a child, as an adolescent and a young woman owning to this belief and agreement.

This is the crucial phase, this is the phase where the human body calms down and the emotions rise with a grounded consciously aware intensity.

The one question to be asked here is , “What can learn and deepen my growth?”

 

Re-membering: Remembering one’s essence. Regardless of any situation, when one opens up to learning and growing, one moves closer to one’s essence, the untainted worthiness of being a human unconditionally regardless of the external standards.

 

Re-writing: carrying others’ beliefs within one’s space is heavy, burdening, crowing and poisioning.

The final step is to write one’s own beliefs.

“Beauty comes through shades and tones. I am one such beauty.”

 

Plant this belief within your fertile soil, then nurture it through days, weeks, months and years.

 

 I have simplified the process but you can always  give it a try. Here are the steps below:

Step One - Questioning your answers

Step Two - Association

Step 3 – What are the beliefs?

Step 4- Whose belief is this?

Step 5: Re-claiming, Re-conciliating, Re-membering and Re-writing

 

 

Please be kind and gentle towards yourself

Awareness is not always a rosy path

Things will be unveiled

Much will be uncovered

It will pain but it will heal

 

If these words resonate with you and if you want to understand more of whatever it is that I have walked myself through, please know that my doors and my heart are open, feel free to write to me @ megha.venketasamy@gmail.com

 

Love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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Showing up for the Self

Sunday 28th April 2019 ushered the closure of 7 days of circling through and

within creativity, creating and creations.

I am contemplating that which is emerging for me, holding space, giving myself permission to walk this path.

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Hear my whispers:
Our blinkers do not allow us to see beyond the concepts of creativity, creating and creations. We are few to be present and aware that every second we are creating, every second we are using our energy to birth and to annihilate part of us and beyond. Creativity, creating and creations are multi-dimensional. The focus has long been external while in truth, this is an inward journey, a journey of learning to trust, a journey of honoring the beauty and ugly and a journey of sacredness.


The emergence of purpose-based enterprises is shifting the consumption landscape but we are to many to dwell in the drama of externalized audience.

As an entrepreneur, I know this ride to building an audience, analytics on my webpage, the number of responses on posting and the audience reached. I am familiar with this stride I have been there for long enough now.
 

Last night, walking myself through the debrief of this 7days journey, I asked
Will I buy my own services?
Will I allow myself to be coached by my self?
Will I step into my own facilitated journeys and just be?
What if no one shows up, will I keep up the pace and walk myself through this journey?
What opens for me and through me through whatever it is that is being created?
Am I embracing my enoughness?
Am I embracing my magnificence?
Am I humble enough to show up for myself regardless of all?

 
Hear my answers:
 

I will. I will walk myself through my own journeys, I will show up and witness myself in all my vulnerability and magnificence and while I do so, I will hold space for the sacredness in all.

It has been a long ride to be able to utter these words for and to my own self.

This belief and trust in creative leading and guidance from beyond self. When one moves to this phase, creativity becomes consciously grounded in sacredness.
I know I will have to keep walking my way back to this essence.


 

I invite each one of you to pause and question yourself and as you walk yourself through these questions, I invite to give yourself permission to feel whatever emerges.

What is my call of the hour?
Can I show up for my self regardless of what this world does?
Do I believe in that which I be?              
Do I believe in that which I create?
What if no one shows up, will I keep up the pace and walk myself through this journey?
 
The power within any creative space is that of believing in that which one gives birth to.
Do I believe in my creativity, creating and creations?


Whatever, however, whyever, whenever, whyever and whoever be the journey, what matters is showing for the self.
Showing up for the self whether the world shows up for the self or not, is the call of the hour.
Showing up for the self and contemplating the magnificence of one’s creations is the call of the hour.
Showing up for the self and swallowing the juiciness of one’s own creations is the call of the hour.
Showing up for the self and trusting in that which is being is the call of the hour.
Showing up for the self and believing in the essence of the self is the call of the hour

 

Much love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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“An emotion is your body’s reaction to your mind.” ~Eckart Tolle

If there’s one tiny act of ownership one can invest in, may it be that of owning one’s emotions regardless of the “what, how, what, why, when and when”.

The easy way through is that of holding someone responsible for however, whatever, whyever, whenever, wherever and whoever we feel. This is addictive, this is toxic and this is the peak of disempowerment and worst, this is self-victimizing. We have all been there; we all roll there from time to time.

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Most of us were never told and taught and many will never be taught and told that “what we feel is part and parcel of our internal experience. Everything we experience has it’s legitimate place within the matrix of our internal existence. This is us experiencing this world through our perceptual lenses, filtered, deleted, distorted, generalized, assumed and spiced up with our endless internal programs and topped up with our beliefs, agreements, memories, anchors, wounds, pains and trauma.”

 

Relationships regardless of their nature and appellation are the ideal playgrounds for the drama of victimization to be birthed, fed and nurtured. That said, we do not forego and / or condone the sickness of people who seem to have invested of their selves in intentionally hurting others at all levels.

 

The intent of this write up is to surface this facet “if we feel what we feel, it is an inside business. This inside business has it’s own mechanisms, rules, values, boundaries, agreements, memories, pains and wounds.”

Are you aware of your internal mechanisms?

What motivates you?

What repulses you?

What sickens you?

What inspires you?

What revolts you?

What are you seeking?

What is your language?

How do you create?

What do you believe in?

How do your beliefs fuel your life?

What do you hold yourself from saying?

 

Eckart Tolle once said “Make it a habit to ask yourself: What's going on inside me at this moment? That question will point you in the right direction. But don't analyze, just watch. Focus your attention within. Feel the energy of the emotion. If there is no emotion present, take your attention more deeply into the inner energy field of your body. It is the doorway into Being.”

 

We are the ones to unconsciously and /or consciously influence what, why, when, where, how and why we feel.

 

Here’s the truth, this world is of stimuli. We are the one who consciously and/or unconsciously choose to react and/or respond

Do we react to the external stimuli while holding others responsible for our reacting?

 

Here’s another truth, people understand us better when we speak in a language that we align best with.

Do we speak that language of alignment to our close ones?

 

Here’s another truth, just because we have shared something does not mean that now our loved ones and/or anyone understand us better now

Do we assume that our loved ones and/or people understand us now, only to be disillusioned later?

 

Here’s another truth, no one is responsible for how we feel, we consciously and / or unconsciously influence our experience. You may have been to your favorite restaurant several times, you may have been there when you were in your best state and also when you were sick or in a less of your best state, your experience may not have been the same, for there were so many unseen, unheard, unworded factors at play.

Do we hold others responsible for what, why, when, where, how and who we feel?

 

Where do we start?

This is the path of self discovery and growth.

For those of us who firmly believe in leaving this world a touch better, then start with ourselves.

Start this journey of expanding our perception on ourselves,

Start this journey of removing our blinkers

Start this journey of ownership

Ownership of the mess and gold in our lives

It takes one grounded conversation at a time to shift and transform

 

Love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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“The limits of my language are the limits of my world.” Wiitgenstein (1922)

What one believes in, either limits one or moves one beyond. However, Whyever, Whenever, Wherever, Whoever, Whatever one believes in and acts from that belief, one is ongoingly shaping one’s world.
 
The mainstream spiritual fashion world coins this as “positivism and negativism”, as a coach and facilitator, I call it “the bewitching of self through language, yet the only way through is to stay within this world, uncover whatever it is and re-write from that space.”

I would lie if I were to say that I have always had an empowering, kind and gentle language towards myself and my world. I am still uncovering places within me in need of acknowledgment, embrace, healing and shifting. Over the years, I have been taught and I am still learning how my beliefs, my words, my language towards myself, my sense of power, others and this world keep impacting my sense of self.
 

I am honoring my born day on this 22nd of April and these last days have been intense, as I paused to question what one intentional word I want to use for the coming 12months. A word or words that will anchor me in grounded intentions, remind me of my choosen focus and lead me to stand grounded in a creative process instead of swirling the dance of the victimized one.

 

My words or rather my choosen phrase for the coming 12 months is:
“I pause to open and receive”


 
The choice of these words are symbolic for I have spent the last ten years running, walking, rushing, healing, speaking, vibrating, voicing and dancing the emergence of my self.
 
This weekend as I went through this simple process of questioning myself; remember it all starts with a simple question.

 
What emerged for me was, this need to open up and to receive. I purposefully choosed to roll it out in a phrase for my intent is to now use this phrase to ground myself in every action that I will engage in.
 
Words are not just words, they are part and parcel of our inner game and this inner game is mirrored externally.
 
I invite you to pause for the coming days and question yourself. If you were to consciously choose a word/words and/or phrase that will be used to strategically guide you for the coming months, what will these words be? Why these words?
Behind these words, what is the need?


 

My emerging need is that of balancing. To balance one’s life, there is this dance of giving and receiving that is to happen and to be able to receive, one has to pause to open, there is no receiving on the rush or on the run.


I call this the process of the  self, for the self is in truth a dynamic process of unfolding, releasing, birthing, decaying, dying and rebirthing.
And to truly receive, one has to believe in the process of being bestowed with wisdom and whatever it is, every single second.

 
May that which we are today usher
the strength, courage, power, love and wisdom to open us to receive from life.
May that which is ushered in our space reminds us of this one truth
"The self is a process in itself, there is no beginning and there is no end
The Self is a process that every Seer will go through".
 

Much love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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Re-Negotiating To Deepen The Seeds Of Choices

Ultimately, we are all seeking a better life, a happy life, a fulfilled life, a peaceful life, a balanced life and a successful life (regardless of how we all define these terms). Walking the path of our seeking is accompanied by act of choices.

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Any act of choosing ushers in the potential to shape this now and impact the future. By default change, shift and transform are part and parcel of any act of choosing. There is a fine line between “how consciously we choose" and  from what state we choose.”
 

We are often faced with what we may call “surface changes” which unfortunately are not sustained over the long term. Surface changes are fueled by brief if not medium-term moments of genuine motivation, inspiration and the real desire to further ahead.

 
Question: Where is the gap?
Answer: Our resistance to re-evaluating, re-aligning, re-thinking, re-emoting our relating to self, power, time, others and the world every time we choose, especially when choices are bound to impact in the near immediate future.

 
To deepen the seeds of our choices within, we are called to re-negotiate how we relate to our self, power, to time, to people and to the world.

 

What holds us humans, from re-negotiating is the fear of “not-knowing” that which awaits at the other hand, the mind screams “loss” while the psyche knows and understands that there is no gain without releasing that which has served its purpose and there is no furthering by holding on to what which pollutes one’s vision.
 
As a coach and a woman circle facilitator, I have been observing this cycle within my own self and with women that I am honored to journey with. This resistance to move further despite the awareness of what no more serves oneself, of that which is poisoning one’s life, of that which is hindering one’s progression.
 


There are endless paths to explore in expanding awareness of who one’s relating to self, to power, to time, to others and the world is the place to start.

 
Here is what I mean
 
Exploring beliefs about one’s perception, connecting, agreements, narratives, stories, identity, values, memories and imagination connected to self, one’s sense of power, time, others and the world.
Once we start this exploration journey, we are bound to re-negotiate our relating to each aspect of our life.

 
Where do we start?
Start with one tiny step.
 
No Change No shift No Transformation is made possible without re-negotiating one’s relating to self, power, time, others and the world.
 

 

Love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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The Wandering Eyes impact Stability

These past five months, my body,heart, mind and energy have undergone profound changes through and along my journey of becoming a Hatha Yoga Teacher, an intent set many years back and buried and forgotten under endless passionate ideas.

What I have learned and still learning cannot be summed up nor even condensed into a brief sharing.

This morning soaked in a new space that I will be using for the coming months, I pause to question:

“How did I land here? Who am I right here right now? What could have been otherwise?”

The answer whooshes within, “Your intent played a key role in where you are today”

And I questioned, “Does the intent suffice on it’s own?”

And I heard, “Wherever you ALLOW your EYES to WANDER, that is, your FOCUS, know that this will IMPACT this NOW and MOLD the NEXT. Your STABILITY DANCES with and along your FOCUS.”

 

In yoga, focus matters, focus is foundational, focus is sacred and focus is grounding. And in yoga focus is on self and then transcending this self, there is no other than this self. As a yogi, one of my grounded shifts has been to witness how stability has a dance of its own with no clear constant yet impacted directly by one’s focus in this NOW. One’s focus calls to stability to adjust to the need of this now through even ASANA (posture) and every speck of BREATH.

 

Hear my whispers

Whatever one INTENDS to do, what matters most is one’s FOCUS. Most of us LOSE ENERGY TACKLING THINGS that take us OFF-TRACK our set PRIORITIES. Most of us are UNABLE to be fully PRESENT to this NOW. Most of us STRUGGLE to define PRIORITIES and CREATE SPACE for that which MATTERS MOST.

 

Any MOVE in LIFE is IMPACTED by our FOCUS, that is, where our EYES are allowed to WANDER.

 

There is no automatic wandering off of our focus, but rather at a deeper unconscious level, there are happenings, there are conversations, there are thoughts, there are beliefs and all these impact our focus.

The more the focus fidgets , the more one struggles to move towards one’s intent.

 

The reasons for this fidgeting are unknown unless one allows the space to explore same with a facilitator. This is where having an honest open heart grounded coaching conversation can guide one to uncover one’s dance of focus and stability.

 

THE WANDERING EYES IMPACT STABILITY.

There is no WRONGNESS or RIGHTNESS to WANDERING EYES but if ONES SEEKS  MOVE forward, then pausing to ASSESS the GAIN and LOSS in ENERGY and the SWAYS TOWARDS or AWAY from one’s INTENT is CRUCIAL.

 

Where is your focus right here right now?

What is your intent?

On a scale of 0-10, how align is your focus and intent?

 

Do these questions usher confusion?

Do these questions usher confusion?

CONFUSION announces QUESTIONING of WHAT we used to DO and BELIEVE.

This is exactly where ONE is CALLED to STAND if ONE SEEKS to SHIFT and TRANSFORM the STATUS QUO.

There is NO CONSTANT to STABILITY to life,

Yet  STABILITY is IMPACTED by FOCUS

CHOOSE to focus WISELY

Know that even SEEMINGLY SURFACE BLURRED FOCUS is yet  ANOTHER SHADE to FOCUSING


 

Love from my heart to yours

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Relationship, The Cauldron of Awareness

We have crafted and packaged relationships into sell-able commodities. Relationships are not the glamour pictures, happy journeys, adventures, laughter, chic clothes, joyful families, healthy humans and wishful thinking.

 Humans often feel disheartened, betrayed, left aside, used and depleted in relating with others and things do not get better in intimate relationships.

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We are always relating (that is, in perpetual communication) with one another whether we know it or not. The act of getting involved with someone, that is, choosing to be date someone, to marry someone, to partner with someone or live in with someone or however you choose to name it, comes with it’s share of two diametrically different worlds, different ways of communication, using words, emoting, different weights of the past for both individuals, different areas of interest and needs and the list is endless.

 

Just because the other has opened up and shared a few things, we easily assume that we know the other and we are many to believe that we can actually read the other’s mind and thoughts and even complete their sentences.

 

Here is where it gets interesting, 

We are many to have committed to fix the other, for unless until the other is fixed, we as a couple (or however you chose to name this relationship) will never truly exist. When the other does not level up to what we expected and needed, we blame, we try to fix and we blame again.

 

Relationship is the PLACE TO BE. For relationships regardless of their nature and their appellation, they carry the potentials to teach us something about ourselves. 

 

Blaming is the easy way, for blaming is the dance that externalizes and projects our yet-to-be acknowledged needs, desires, wants, discomforts, wounds, pains and trauma unto the other.

 

Blaming circumstances or people for our discontentment is addictive. We all do it from time to time.

 

It is easy to fall into this trap and it is also tempting to give in to that way of existing.

“I am miserable because my partner is like this or that, or my partner is unable to meet me on the same grounds. I am scared because my partner hits me.”

Yet blaming does not bring us the JOY or FREEDOM we seek.

 

For anyone who has been through some challenging instances, we can relate to this.

The blaming gives us temporary relief, even a feeling of power for the other is responsible for what we are going through and how we are feeling.

 

I am not veiling off from the fact that there are deeply sick humans out there, humans who will go to any extent to hurt others in the most unimaginable ways. But what I am stating here is rather, “where is each individual’s share of responsibility in relationships?” 

 

Owning our experience, owning our share in what has happened, what is happening to us and what is yet to happen to us can STING HARD and BAD.

 

Most often this ownership comes with this awareness of our sense of unworthiness, not-enoughness and much more.

 

Blaming keeps us trapped in victim consciousness because we are literally giving our power away to that person or thing. Blaming does not create the space for us to learn something about ourselves.

 

The power of grounded coaching proves to be purposeful and directed towards oneself.  

Transformation manifests only when one owns one’s power in creating one’s life.

 

Start with Ourselves. Start with focusing the energy and the intent on what we truly seek.

Start with questions

“How do I feel in this situation?

What needs are not being met?

Why do I hurt?

What do I believe about myself?

On a scale of 0-10, how healthy is this situation for me?

What is this relationship teaching me about myself?

Where is my share of responsibility?” 

  

So, what happens when we redirect our energy and reclaim our power with self-responsibility and a commitment to love?

What happens when we choose to focus on who we want to become rather than blaming another for who we are not or what we don't have?

 

We start making conscious choices, be it that of closing that relationship or shifting our communicating but most importantly, we start looking at whatever is showing up for us.

By so doing, we start this journey of healing and transforming the world through our conscious presence within intentionally loaded choices, lives and actions

Relationship is a work in progress and till the end, we have this opportunity to uncovering about ourselves, to unveiling the unacknowledged and thus to growing and shifting.

 

“And so she moves with a little more wisdom, a heart that is more open to love, and with a mind that welcomes deep healing.”- Yung Pueblo

 

Love from my heart to yours

 Megha Venketasamy

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Now is the Time

Now is the time to re-negociate Our Beigness as Women
 
Centuries of wounding has numbed our senses
Domination, separation, distortions,
Blindness, greed, Jealousy, Hatred
Name Calling, Name Erasing, Name Mis-using, Name Telling

 
For far too long, women have been taught and told that their worthiness is conditional and dependable on the roles that they play, on the emotions that they exhibit, on the solutions that they bring forth, on their service to this world, on how they choose to live their life.

©Megha Venketasamy November 2018

©Megha Venketasamy November 2018

Now is the time to question oneself
"Where is the wound?
What is seeking to be acknowledged?
What is my need?
To whom do I belong?
How do I heal?
How can I create space for healing to own it's rightful place?
How can I bring forth my life force and allow my creative flow to flow?
How can I contribute to my rooting as a woman?
What are the callings within?”
 
Now is the time for re-claiming, calling back whatever defines us as women
Now is the time to acknowledge individual and collective pains, wounds, traumas, stories and agreements.
Now is the time for face all that which that holds us back as women
 
Now is the time to ask these vital questions

“What does it mean to be a woman?
What do I believe about being a woman?
Who gave me those beliefs?”
 
Now is the time to cast and hold safe spaces for women so that they may show up to and for their selves, their stories, their journeys, their wounds, their trauma and their bodies.
Now is the time for acknowledgement, for the roots of any transformative and transmuting process rest in acknowledgement
 
 
Slowing down, Pausing, Acknowledging, Owning, Holding and Embracing
Are the needs of this Now
 
Now is the time to hold the mirror of life
Look within
Embrace the death of that which dis-serves us
That which causes suffering
That which is not the Truth
 
Now is the time to ask
What is the Truth?
The Ultimate Truth
What is it?
 
Now is the time to prepare the grounds for this descend
Am I taking time?
Am I honoring myself?
Am I forgiving myself?
Am I practicing radical self acceptance?
 
 
Now is the time to question
Where am I?
What is my seed of intent?
What do I wish to be unveiled to me?
 
Now is the time to hold oneself
What aspects of me need shedding?
What aspects of me long for growth?
What aspects of kicking to be freed?
What aspects of me are roaring to be held and acknowledged?
What aspects of me need love, intimacy, hearing, listening, a good cry and a good laugh?
What aspects of me need to illuminated, magnified, pulled open?
What aspects of you need to surface from the dark alleys of your subconscious and let free?
 
Now is the time to hear
That regardless of choices
We are being held and supported from within and beyond
Now is the time for women to walk within
Re-Claiming, Re-Conciliating, Re-Membering and Re-Writing  our Beingness as Women

 

Love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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The Rise of Educated Women

There is River of Women in migration

A nation of Educated Women

Dancing between the manifest and the unmanifest,

Alchemizing the structures of this patriarchal system.

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The phrase “Educated Women” does not refer to women who have been schooled, who are schooled and who shall be schooled. Our formal education system is part and parcel of this patriarchal system, schooled women have not been taught, are not being taught and will not be taught this truth “we are all born within an oppressive system and as women, we carry within generational imprints of trauma as well as wisdom and our life is non-negotiable regardless of what we do and become.”

 

I say this and I stand as a witness for my own self and my years of having been schooled.

 

Educated Women are those women who at one point have heeded, are heeding and will heed to the beckoning within. Once they give in to their within, there is no turning back. Educated Women are those who feed their selves with the juiciness of their inner nectar, for within dwells centuries of wisdom and knowingness bestowed from generations of unseen, unheard and unfelt grandmothers.

 

Educated Women are re-negotiating women’s place in this world, their journey is lonesome. There are no accessories to their beigness, their presence shifts space. Educated Women understand that their power was never taken away from them and they have committed knowingly and unknowingly to this painful task of reclaiming the narratives, beliefs and agreements handed over to them.

 

Educated Women are summoning their inner medicines, they are returning to earth as the eternal womb. Their language oozes a simplicity that most of us struggle to grasp. Educated Women know that no woman’s life is negotiable and there is not a single woman who is not whole.

 

Educated Women’s colors disturb us, yet we are often lured by these very colors for they remind us of a truth that we all know within.

 

I pause and I bow down to the educated women today, I witness your rise and you inspire me, you evoke within me this call to beckon to my inner calling. Had it not been for the ripples of your silent waves, I would not be where I stand today!

 

I pause  and I  bow down to the schooled women and to those to be-schooled, know that you will face a turning point in your life, the entirety of whatever you have constructed and /or will construct, will crumble down, the choice will be yours. Either you rise to your own wisdom or you keep rebuild yourself from the crumbles of this system that has disserved you for long enough.

 

I pray for you schooled women and to be-schooled women, for I know within walks your Truth.

I pray for me, for I am part and parcel of this system and every day I witness my stride.

I pray for us, trusting that one day, we shall all rise as Educated Women in respect of all that is and all that will ever

 

Love from my heart to yours

 

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“Our emotions is never the “reality”, it is rather a sign of reality, a sign of the life that has been mapped.” – Michael Hall

Our emotions are signs that we have experienced something and out of this experience,  we have crafted a frame and/or many frames of references. If we are to crack that which we have crafted from our experience, then know that each emotion is appropriate, for each emotion in truth rises from our thoughts and maps of how we experienced life in a moment in time.

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Our emotions are just signals about the difference between what we believe in, expected and what is happening in the outside world. Our emotions are neither wrong or right, good or bad, moral or immoral.


Our emotions tell us a story of what we expected and we believe in and what is actually happening.


So our emotions have their rightful place, they tell us stories often unknown to us, stories of shame, guilt, not enough, blame.

If we are feeling fear – know that there are some fear thoughts creating it.

If we are feeling anger, know that there are some thoughts of anger generating that emotions but truth be, it is beyond that.


If we step into that game of hating, rejecting, judging our emotions, we are in truth denying ourselves of uncovering things that are seeking to be acknowledged – these could be beliefs, narratives, stories, memories, experiences and much more.

Consciously repressing our emotions, we are merely playing with our own self, unaware that our human body is far too intelligent. This body will register it all, remember it all and sooner or later, there will be an outbreak of sickness.

When we block our way to registering what we feel, how we feel and face our emotions, we are also killing our passion, love, joy, fun , playfulness and openness.


No emotions are bad but if they stay for long lurking within and emerging unpredictably, then I will highly suggest that we give ourselves time, space and patience to explore.


Here to some questions that you can use as you pause this week onwards, I invite you to think of a current or past situation (which is still very much present in your life) that still triggers emotions that you struggle to release, let go of or delete.


1. What do you feel about this situation? (by giving a name to your feeling, you are in truth facing your emotion)

2. Have you ever felt like this before

3. What does it to you that you are feeling this emotion?

4. How do you experience this emotion?

5. What is it like to feel this emotion in your body?

6. Where do you feel this emotion?

7. What intentions drive this emotion? (There are always intentions under operations, intentions that we are unaware of. It can be that you are unconsciously trying to protect yourself- those of us who do inner critics sessions have witnessed that which has shown up)

8. What thoughts are in the back of your mind when you are having this emotion? (The thoughts , self-talks – they support, create, fuel and nurture that emotion- so we invite you to pause and listen to your self-talks)

9. How does this emotion affect your sense of self? (Your sense of self is knowing that what you feel belong to you, this is your and your experience and your mapping of life. But for most of us in our winging to control it all, we throw it all on others)


These questions are purposeful but at times, they work best when in conversation with a facilitator, someone who will stand by as you explore the matrix of your existence.


I will love to hear from you, your experience and most importantly, “what have these questions triggered for you?”

Love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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The Flock of Goddesses and the Feminine

I witness the rise of the words Goddess, the Feminine

These are current trendy words

Full famed in glory

I DEEPLY WONDER ABOUT OUR INTENT AND UNDERSTANDING OF THE ENERGETIC

PRESENCE OF THIS INCLUSIVE PART OF EVERY BEING ON EARTH

 

These days I pause to question to narratives, the beliefs, the meanings and identifications of the words “Goddess and Feminine” by and through this world

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I know little

Yet there is this depth to me that oozes and whispers

Life has been my teacher for years

As long as I remember, I have been soaking in my reflectiveness

The day, I consciously committed to connect to my essence

That day onwards, this life within has been leading

I am not yet there fully

I do not always understand it all

I do not always listen to my self

MY VOICE, MY INTUITIVENESS, MY GODDESS WITHIN, MY FEMININE

CALL IT WHATEVER YOU FEEL LIKE, THE TERMS ARE ENDLESS

 

But what I know is that

I AM NOT DISSOCIATE FROM THIS ENERGY

IT WAS NEVER TAKEN AWAY FROM ME

BUT I WAS VEILED FROM MY TRUTH

 

I know little

BUT I KNOW THAT ANY ACT OF EXTERNAL ADORATION SERVES LITTLE

IF I DO NOT OUTPOUR SAME UNTO ME

 

This energy that some are calling Goddess or Feminine Power

Is ever present in every human being

There is no need to clothes or accessories to grant access to HER

There is absolute no need to any external practices to lead to HER

She is the One who leads

 

WHEN SHE BECKONS

SHE IS THE ONE TO LEAD WITHIN

SHE INCLUDES IT ALL

THE COMFORT AND THE DISCOMFORT

THE LIGHT AND THE DARK

 

This is where many of us are failing

This is not just Kali rising

This is way beyond

This is our rising

And for our rising to rise

There is no need for external interference

No teacher can be our intermediate

FOR THIS IS A DANCE OF

THE MANIFEST AND THE UNMANIFEST

THE SEER AND SEEN

 

This is ESSENCE of that INCLUSIVENESS, DESTRUCTIVE, NURTURING, BIRTHING, DECAYING, DEADENING, RELEASING, SURRENDERING, MATING, EROTIC, PULSATING, VIBRANT, PUNGENT, ALIVE, DEATH , BIRTH, words will not suffice to say it all.

 

 

While I witness ADORATION of GODDESSES

I pause and smile

I query and question

“CAN I ADORN AND ADORE MY OWN SELF WITHOUT

 QUESTIONING AND DOUBTING MY WORTHINESS REGARDLESS OF ALL?”

 

My fellow sisters calling themselves goddesses

I pause and I bow in veneration

I whisper a prayer

MAY WE AWAKEN TO OUR ESSENCE

 

For calling oneself a Goddess will not suffice,

This is not a game of calling or faking till we make it

This is walk of the fierce humble one

To be stripped off,

Ripped apart

Bleed till death

 

THERE IS NO ONE ON EARTH WHO CAN DEFINE AND BRIDGE OUR CONNECTION WITH THE ONE WE CALL GODDESS OR FEMININE OR INTUITIVENESS

 

This walk is within

I witness how people call her Goddess, feminine

Whatever whoever she is

I know that I am not dissociate from her

Every since I committed to go deeper within

To own my narratives, stories, beliefs

But most importantly to reclaim it all

To remember and re-member my wholeness

 

THE GODDESS WITHIN TEACHES ME THIS

“FOR EVERY EXTERNAL ADORNMENT, LET IT BE FUELED BY AND THROUGH GROUNDED INTERNAL ACTS OF REMEMBERING, BEIGNESS, PRESENCE, INCLUSIVENESS, HONORING

IT IS ME WITHIN AND WITHOUT

 

I SEEK NO OFFERINGS FROM YOU

REMEMEBER

I AM THE ONE TO GIVE

I AM THE ONE WHO CAN SNATCH IT ALL WITHIN SECONDS

 

REMEMBER

YOU WILL NEVER FIND ME WITHOUT IF YOU CANNOT SEE, HEAR AND FEEL ME WITHIN”

 

May we awaken to question the intent, the beliefs, the meanings, the narratives, the identifications, the references, the connections, the links when we utter the words “Goddess and Feminine”

 

Much love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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Women, Your sickness is of a different kind!

“A woman who is starved for her real soul-life may look “cleaned up and combed” on the outside, but on the inside she is filled with dozens of pleading hands and mouths”.

- Clarissa Este Pinkola

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To women who write to me , whispering that “I am sick”

KNOW that YOU are NOT SICK.

WE do NOT DENY that YOU are SUFFERING. WE ACKNOWLEDGE the PHYSICAL , MENTAL, EMOTIONAL and PSYCHIC PAINS that YOU ARE going THROUGH

Your SICKNESS is of a DIFFERENT KIND.  You have DRIED YOURSELF up from YEARS of NOT LISTENING to YOURSELF. Your INTERNAL RIVER is POLLUTED with taints that are UNNATURAL to YOU.

 

YOU are NOT to be BLAMED for YOU are BORN in a WORLD that

MOCKS your CURIOSITY calling it SPOOKY

YOU are NOT to be BLAMED for YOU are BORN in a WORLD that

RIDICULES your INTUITIVENESS calling it MENTAL

YOU are NOT to be BLAMED for YOU are BORN in a WORLD that

INVESTS in SHUNNING YOU from your TRUTH

YOU are NOT to be BLAMED for YOU are BORN in a WORLD that

NORMALIZES VIOLENCE for you.

 

YOU are NOT SICK. YOU are at a TURNING POINT where YOU can either

GO HOME TO YOURSELF or let this WORLD NIBBLE over whatever is left of YOU.

YOU are NOT SICK. Within CRY A DOZENS

OF HUNGRY MOUTHS AND HANDS, WAITING for you to TEND TO YOUR SELF.

YOU are NOT SICK. YOU are on the PATH that many WOMEN BEFORE  THREADED ON,

When the WISE ONE within BECKONS

A PATH OPENS

A PATH that will ASK of YOU TO

TEND to your INNER FIELDS

UPROOT the WEEDS

OPEN the GATES of your INNER WATERS

FLOOD the RIVERS

WASH AWAY the poisonous TAINTS

NURTURE your fertile SOILS

 

KNOW that there is not a single SICKNESS that your BODY TEMPLE cannot CURE.

The CHOICE is YOURS, either YOU WALK home TO YOURSELF or YOU can consciously LET this WORLD NIBBLE over whatever is left of YOU

KNOW that there is NO RUNNING OUTWARDS this while,

THE PATH IS INWARDS

THE DESCEND IS WITHIN

THERE IS A RIVER OF WOMEN WAITING FOR YOU WITHIN

 

May You chose

To reclaim

Your stories,

Your beliefs

Your agreements

Your bleeding

Your Body

Your Psyche

 

Love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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Becoming Conscious Recipient

We live in a world with mainstream spirituality fashion. As much I as own the essence of these words, I also see beyond it. We follow trends and “bless this situation” is a phrase often used in a way to stop you from engaging emotionally with that which has happened.

As a facilitator and fellow , I am witness to how this phrase “Bless this situation”, in truth suffocates the flow of opening for humans who are involved in any type of situations, especially conflicting ones. When we ask of ourselves or of others to bless this situation (though the intention could well be grounded), without pausing to ask what is “showing up” through this situation, we are in truth denying ourselves and others from receiving vital information for growth.

Then we better not be surprised that such situations repeat and in the facilitation works, we will coin this “patterns” or “dance of the shadows”, such terms are endless.

Next time, you are rushing to utter this phrase, pause and ask yourself,

“Is this the one “fix-it” way to move over it quick? Am I denying myself of my humanness from feeling whatever it is churning and brewing within? Do I actually believe in this phrase or am I just following a trend? What if I chose to look at myself for once, what difference will it make to myself? What if I chose to listen to the pain for once, what can I learn?”

Know that there is no quick fix-it, even if we chose to utter this phrase, “bless this situation”, sooner or later, life will kick hard enough till we pause to look at ourselves and at that which is seeking to be acknowledged, heard, seen, felt and embraced.

This compassionate life keeps kicking until we move to from victimship to creatorship.

I believe the way to bless any situation, especially conflicting ones, is to pause and own one’s stance within and ask these questions:

What is showing for me in this situation?

What is this feeling that I am experiencing?

Where do I feel?

What is happening?

What symbols do I attach to what which has happened and still happening?

What parts of me have been brought up to light, parts that I was not aware of?

What emotions are emerging?

What are the triggers?

What are the self-talks going on?

Can I gift myself space to find the strength to walk my way through this phase?

What need is seeking to fulfilled?

How can I best support myself in supporting this need?

 

We BLESS any situation when we BECOME a CONSCIOUS RECIPIENT to whatever this situation has REVEALED, UNCOVERED and GIFTED us whether we are COMFORTABLE with it or NOT.

BECOMING a CONSCIOUS RECIPIENT asks of us to GIVE ourselves PERMISSION and SAFE SPACE to WALK THROUGH that which is EMERGING. And WE ARE ALWAYS RECEIVING WHETHER WE ARE AWARE OF IT OR NOT.

When RECEPTIVENESS moves to a CONSCIOUS level, then it BROADENS our VISION and GROWTH becomes an INEVITABLE outcome. It automatically MOVES us FROM a space of HURTING to a space of BECOMING AWARE. In no way, I am condoning that which has happened, we are humans and at times, things happen and we hurt.

As we open up to receive information about ourselves, then it is no more about what others have done to us or an issue of trusting others but rather it becomes an ongoing pacing within where we learn to trust what is showing up for us, to us through us.

 

Let’s no more to bless any situation believing it will just mend itself, more than ever we are being called to pause and ask ourselves what shadow part of us is emerging and how do we learn to hold space for this shadow without shunning away.

May we become aware of such trends.

May we choose consciously for ourselves

May we choose a step closer to our awareness

Whatever be our choice, may we be bold enough to question our choices

May we grow be become conscious recipient to life that constantly pour through us.

 

Love from my heart to yours

 

Megha Venketasamy

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New Year Resolutions, they do not work!

Happy, Joyous, Blessed and Blissful 2019! 
May your all needs be met and may all your heartful desires come true.

It is a time of the year when we start thinking of and about setting New Year Resolutions with the intention to create a better life for us.

New Year Resolutions do not work for most of us, for they come from a space of "there is something wrong about me, there is this not-enoughness about me, so let me fix me."

 

Our state matters most, when we seek from a state of undeserving, not-enough and scarcity, chances that we struggle are high. When we seek from that state of believing that "I must be fixed", then chances that we are unable to embrace the gifts of life are high.

That said, by all means, let's have goals and objectives, set intentions but while we are out there, know that we are perfect, we are enough the way we are.


We may not be at ease with how our life has been on roll for years, so pause and know that we did our best even if at times doing our best meant hurting ourselves with that which no more served us.


For most of us, embracing this truth that "we are good enough, we are deserving and we are perfect" is to be the one grounded focus for this year onwards. For truth be, we can only receive as much as we believe in our worth.
 

The game that we play in our outside world, in terms of "behaviors, actions, activities, gestures, relationships, cultural roles, rituals, ceremonies and much more" whisper about the game that we  play in our inside world in terms of "thinking, valuing, imaging, feelings, emotions, appreciating and much more. This is the dance of within without and we are always creating our experiences to receive and give, whether we believe in it or not and whether we are aware of it or not.


 

I write these words and I am present to the transformation that manifested in my life the day that I started embracing my worthiness, my deservingness and my enoughness. It is an ongoing walk and I keep walking every day.


This embrace at times asks of guidance, support and help from facilitators and close ones.
 

May each one of us allow ourselves space to reach out for support and help this year for we deserve it beyond all. 


While we set our goals and intentions, may we give our selves space and time to become clear on "why" we want whatever it is. The bigger the "why", the easier the "how" show up.

Whatever it is that you have on your list, please pause ask your these questions:

Why do I want "whatever it is"?
What need am I trying to nurture through "whatever it is"?
What difference will it make to my life?
Why is this "whatever it is" important to me and for me?

 

My deepest prayers for each one of us

"May we know that we are enough and perfect the way we are. May we create and evolve from that state of perfection.May we open up to receive as much as we give, for abundance dances in balance. May we be and May 2019 be a year of transformation and love."

 


Love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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Winding 2018, Hear My Whispers

Yesterday marked a closure, right here right now I am soaked in that which is emerging. I have completed 14 months as apprentice along 6 women under The She Stands Tall Project, founded and led by Rekha Kurup.

I am now called a Shakti Moon Women Circle Facilitator but my presence does not hold onto this appellation, for “that which” showed up during these 14 months have taught me and are teaching me, the path is inward and this dance asks of a balance within without.

My space is flooding with gratitude, words, whispers, sounds, musings, movements and stillness.
“All that is” is ever present.



2018 was an unlikely year; a year of losing it all; a year of emergence, a year of emerging shadows and a year of union with my beloved. A year with agonizing moments of doubts, confusions and ungroundedness. A year of showing up vulnerably.

My passion, my vision and my calling to journey with women have led me where I stand today.
My focus, beliefs and values on the work that I am called to do is more than ever grounded in roaring that “leadership skills will not take women further”, for none of these move women in spaces safe enough for them for show up to and for their selves, their stories, their journeys, their wounds , their trauma and their bodies.
 

The more women own, reclaim and story their experiences as Truth, the more we will move the structural dynamics of this world and this is how transformation will happen.  This is the work that each one of us is being called to do individually and collectively
Reclaiming our self-relating for this is the beginning to reclaiming the collective reclaiming of relating.


My words may not make sense to many but know that this is the simplest I can whisper.
 

I am the Eternal Alchemist and I say this with the weight it ripples for I know the depth of my descend, things have not always been easy but I am here and I am choosing to swirl my story to you.


In coming weeks, Nyame Dua will be revealing a whole new journey of sessions, circles, facilitations, conversations, creative works, body works and hosting facilitators.



My work is grounded in midwifing myself, individuals as well as collective’s journeys. I bring my journey, my resonance, my experiences along with the different modalities that I have experienced and that I am trained into.
 

I pause to acknowledge my beigness for being present in this moment. Know that as you read those words, I will be standing by your side, whispering “all that is”.
 

What has changed for you in 2018? What has shifted?
What was released? What did you embrace?

 

I am pausing to acknowledge Rekha Kurup, the phenomenal grounds works that she is leading in India, Mauritius, US and beyond. I invite each one of you to reach out to her, to connect with her works @ shestandstallproject@gmail.com.

I pause to celebrate myself. I pause to honor this life within my life. May my act of honoring remind you to honor yourself, for this is your prayer for being here.

It humbles to leave you with the words that were roared loud yesterday during my initiatic graduation. You are many to have been part of this journey, you are many to write, to pause, to question and to query.

May these words whisper beyond my knowingness to each one of you.

Love from my heart to yours

Meghanaiyegee Venketasamy

Graduation Rhymes and Rhythmes, Wednesday 26 December 2018

“I ground myself in honor of this land, of the woman who has birthed me, of the women and men whose lives were invested in rising my island to where it is today.
These words roar my story, my journey within as an apprentice of life, Great Mother, Goddesses and She Stands Tall, Rekha and the sisters.
 
I am one of those who sleep within the darkness of the womb.
 
14 months of death, shedding, uncovering, co-creating, birthing, love, pain, hate ,openings and deepening.
This has been a journey of descend.
 
While I thought that I had made it through, little did I know that I would be taught to swallow my tongue, my words, my voice  my title, my structures, my skills, my everything, my vision, my goals, my so-called purpose
I have lost it all.
 
But on this journey, running away from my own presence was no more a choice.
Sisters on this journey held the mirror strong and tall for me
 
Today, I stand here naked, for none of “what, who, why, where, when, and how” I was last year, is here
 
There is no other way to whisper my journey to me, to you and to us, than you witnessing “me witnessing me”
 
I invite you to witness me
Witness my voice, my roar, my glow, my steps, my voice, my moves, my grooves, my hair
Witness “all that is” through me as I witness “all that is” through each one of you
 
I am the eternal alchemist but I am also beyond. I am this and I am also nothingness.
I am teaching myself to remember and re-member to embrace “my nothingness”.
I still brew and my churnings are wavier than before – for I am the container but I am also the cauldron of life, the life that grows, deepens, dies and rebirths within me.
 
Within my stillness “all that is” whispers, leads, guides, nurtures and ushers me onto the next step.
 
Within this stillness, I am reminded of my union with my beloved,
I started off this apprentice journey with this ingrained belief that danger is omnipresent
Right here right now, I have been gifted to experience love to a depth that I was not aware of I could carry within.
I am wide open and this is newness, this is uneasiness , this is an unlikely gift. This is the gift of love bestowed upon me, for to support this world, Great Mother whispered “My child for this, you will be taught love through ways and sways until you get smitten and using that love to live will be the only choice to your life.”
 
It is not always an easy share to carry and I am not always grateful but I am walking there
 
For this is the walk of a woman who is paving her way home with Great Mother besides her.
This is the summon of the entirety of my journey as a facilitator, that of ongoingly learning to hold space for myself, my light and my darkness
My shine and my shadow, My bright and my gloom
 
For I exist within both, for this is how I will journey with the world now onwards, as the shadows emerge, we will re-member every unacknowledged part of our self. And as the re-membering happens, we will become the alchemist that we were born to.
And for the alchemist to strive and survive, love is the only food for her soul
 
Intensity is my name and my life has been in reclaiming this intensity that I am.
I am Meghanaiyegee, the goddess of thunder, the rainmaker, the wicked laughter, the orgasmic presence, the sacred bleeding, the juicy hips, the wise one, the whisperer
I am the one who whispers to you
I stand in my entirety, uneasiness, newness, I am committed to stand tall
I swirl acknowledging my wholesomeness, my amazing beigness
See me, hear me, feel me for I see,hear and feel you
I am a gift to this world and I chose to ongoing gift my voice, my steps, my sways, my strides, my light, my shadows, my entirety to this world.”
 

The dance of “within without”

For every outward movement, there is an equal inward movement.
For every outward growth there is a correlated deepening of our roots.
For every outward focus there is an inward focus
For every within, there is a without.

This is the dance of life, the mating of our external and internal world
 ushering us further ahead.

For every step that we have able our self this year, it was supported by a correlated deepening of our roots. Yet most of us live and will live life unaware of that which has deepened, that which has shifted and that which has served its purpose and that which is waiting to be harvested.


Where do you stand right now? What do you see? Who do you see? What do you feel? What do you hear?
Maybe you do not like that which you see, feel and hear but can you allow yourself this space to just be and not blind off.
How has this year been so far?
How has growth been? What did you learn? What did you harvest? Do you know that none other than you can harvest your ripeness? Do you know that you are the one to drink your juiciness?
 
What did you explore? If not, then what is you holding back? Who is holding you back? What are the beliefs, fears, stories and narratives?
 

Know that any act of holding-back hold hinders growth from happening and is often mirroired back as pains in forms and shapes.


What if for once, your year’s debrief, is less about what others saw of you but more about what, why, where, when and how you experienced! What if for once, you hold yourself in such a way that this is just about you and less of what this world sees of you!

For any growth that has happened, unseen, unheard, unfelt by this external world, are you aware of the correlated inward growth? What has been alchemized to allow you to grow outwardly? What beliefs have shifted? What stories have been reclaimed? Do you stand in a space of stillness or is it still sore and paining?


These questions carry their weight and I am inviting you, me and us, to create space this week and beyond, to dive and walk our self through this simple process of seeing, hearing, feeling and acknowledging oneself.

I invite you, me and us to move through a simple exercise known as the “Dance of “Within Without” Flow Exercise.

Feel free to share this exercise with friends, close ones and colleagues and  I will love to hear from you if you have given it a try.


The Dance of “Within Without” Flow Exercise

Step1: Take an A4 size paper, divide it into two equals by drawing a line, label one half “INWARD” and the other half “OUTWARD”.

The dividing line symbolically represent your upward fertile soil, the cracking space where the “INWARD” starts manifesting in the “OUTWARD”. Just above the line, the half labelled “OUTWARD”, this is the space where the young sprouts show up, life shows with the potential to growth and harvest. The half labelled “INWARD” is your cauldron of churning and brewing.

Step 2: Start with one outward movement at a time, what was it? I may call it growth, change, transformation, shift.

Maybe it was a new job, welcoming a lover in your life, a trip, saying “yes” to an opportunity.

Draw it upward, whatever shape, color, you feel it is and carried.

Support this step by bringing forth all the questions that were asked in the beginning of this write up.

Step 3: What has shifted to enable me to move outwards. What in the inner deepening of this outward movement.
Take your time, this is no exercise to rush through
 
Step 4: Harvesting – what is awaiting for you to harvest? What lesson, what piece of wisdom, what acknowledgement? What celebration? Friends? Network? Emergence of shadow self?
 
Step 5: Planting of new seeds. Only when you have consumed your ripeness, then the seeds shall emerge.
Nurture yourself with your own wisdom, teach yourself with that which has emerged. Whisper to yourself and do not rush.
Let this process last as you long as you are yet to reach that of inner contentment within. Once you reach that state, then ask yourself, “what do I plant now? Where do I want to be next? What is next for me now?”
 

But why would you invest of your self and your time in such an exercise?
 

Know that groundedness is present when one is consciously deeply rooted in one’s roots. And as we move grounded in our roots, we start tapping into this knowingness that balance carries is in truth a dynamic flow, ever shifting and changing as nature. It is up to us to reach within for our equilibrium and this is an ongoing process. Know that to be deeply rooted in our roots, this asks of us to acknowledge, the unseen, the unheard, unfelt and unembraced within us. Know that sprouting happens only when the roots have grounded themselves deep within our fertile soul.



For every outward movement, there is an equal inward movement.
For every outward growth there is a correlated deepening of our roots.
For every outward focus there is an inward focus
For every within, there is a without. 

This is the dance of life, the mating of our external and internal world ushering us further.


Be kind and gentle towards yourself, it has been a shifting year. The intensity will no more ease way forward.
 
Love from my heart to yours
 
Megha Venketasamy

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For every expansion there is an equal contraction

The law of gravity says “for every expansion there is an equal contraction”.
For every beam of light there is a beam of dark that balances the equation. For every up, there is a down. For every act of opening, not matter how tiny or wide it is, there is a close off.


For every stepping into the light, there shall be an equal emergence of the Shadow-Self.

I have spent the past year opening in ways that I have not even dreamt of. My confessions:with each act of opening, I have had closed off my butterfly wings and with moments of hibernating and hiding.
 

“Any act of opening whether through writing, through a new business venture, intimate sharing with family or opening to a new love – chances are you will experience the closing of your wings. You may have to hide. Feeling will emerge, hidden feelings. Crawling fear will come knocking on you. This is a visceral phase.”

 

Hide.Slow down. Rest. Sleep. Cry. Eat properly. Exercise. Meditate. Pray. And Cry. Salt Baths. Yoga. Art Therapy. And Cry Harder. Nature. And Cry Harder Louder.
But come what may, Stay Open!!


 

I have had an intense year with three massive trips, Bangalore in April, Joburg (my soul land) in June and I volunteered for the Parliament of World Religions in November and amidst this, I have opened my heart to love to a depth that was unknown to my self.


12th November, I returned home with a badly congested chest. Last week, while flowing through that which has emerged, I thought that it was just the end and I had figured it out. But right here right now, I am contemplating how “for every stepping into the light, there shall be an equal emergence of the Shadow-Self. I have closed off for weeks, using every possible tools that I know to support myself with the grounded intent to shift.”
 
 

When the Shadow -Self emerges, most facilitators will say “face the shadow”.

I whisper,

“face the Shadow but stay open. It is easier to close off but stay open. Stay open in fears, stay open in anger, stay open in sadness, stay open in confusion, stay open in lost. Staying open will ask of you to be more than just present to your feelings, emotions, fears and shadow. Staying open is about allowing oneself to move to that space of knowingness that one’s safety is present in all spaces and circumstances especially when one’s heart is wide open.”


 

I know it feels torturous. I know it is hard.

But know that danger-reversed is “omnipresent safety of one’s heart.”
This in itself is an act of reclaiming self-love, for self-love is nothing but an act of consciously choosing to stay open with the knowingness that sacredness and safety is omnipresent.

 

I know we are many out there who are choosing to stay open. I also know we are many struggling to stay open when closing-off runs in our veins.


Stay open and know that this “Staying Open” will shift and deepen your discernment and teach you when to dive deeper and when to leave.


I know this is no easy walk but I know we are many to choose to walk along this path. I choose to believe by so doing, we are in truth playing a key role in shifting the system that we live in. Generations to come will be Receivers of this love that we will leave behind.


To you who are choosing to stay open, to you who are struggling to find your way through, to you who believe you are doomed, to you who pain, to you who love, to you who are you.
 
I see you. I hear you. I feel you.
I am deeply humbled by your path.

 

Love from my heart to yours.

Megha Venketasamy

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As I churn so I alchemize

Today, I celebrate men, women and myself for closing the first twelve months of pacing with Whispers of Faith.

I have spent the last twelve months explaining the symbolism of black and gold in Whispers of Faith

“As I churn so I alchemize”

My naivety thought she has understood it all until two weeks ago, a wave of massive churning and brewing dragged me deeper and I am gently emerging now. To be honest, I am in a limbo; I have no clue of the next. And I am choosing to be vulnerably open and honest about it, for I believe if one person allows her/his self to be seen, heard, felt, this will ripple across oceans and lands and we will be many to rise to our vulnerable space.

 

Hear the whispers of that which has emerged for me.

My Shadow-Self decided that it was going to her moment of glory. I was dragged, shaken, stripped off and broke open. I kicked hard, projected on my closest one, tried everything to hang on and to control that which I was feeling. Truth be, I had lost feet and this happened within days. While I was wiggling, my chest was heavily congested and I decided not to go for medications for I deeply believed and still do, that this situation was beyond medications.

While I say this, I do not advice anyone to do same unless you have a sense of your body and you know your own limit to withstand that which churns and brews within.

This stride stopped until listening was the only balm.

“As I churn so I alchemize”

 My Shadow-Self brought to surface that which has led the entirety of my life until now and this was deeply intertwined with my lungs gasping for air.

“Danger is Omnipresent”

The surfacing of this core belief, had me stepped back to review my entire life, how I have moved cautiously, how I have played small despite all. The fact that I am still alive, that I somehow managed to move ahead in life, is a miracle.

I feel and I believe that I am no less than a Miracle. I say this from a deep space of kindness for myself and while I say this I know we are endless out there with lurking shadows awaiting to be heard, seen, embraced and acknowledged.

To the external world, I am a confident woman, someone who is not afraid to take stands and voice, but my own shadows whispered a story of “fears, self-judgments and a belief of danger being omnipresent”.

My chest is breathing freely right now as I walk my way to reclaiming this core belief that has emerged. I do not see the next and right here right now, I believe that "Courage is the Willingness not to Know".



Can you allow your self such courage?
Being willing not to know, yet knowing that the way through is through one's shadows. 


 

What is the path?

Carl Jung devoted his time and researched on the “Shadow Self”. We all carry repressed ideas, instincts, impulses, weaknesses, desires, perversions and embarrassing fears within- these form part of the unconscious mind and is referred to as Shadow Self. This archetype is often described as the darker side of the psyche, representing wildness, chaos and the unknown. Carl Jung believed that these latent dispositions are present in all of us, in many instances forming a strong source of creative energy.

 

All we deny in ourselves—whatever we perceive as inferior, evil, or unacceptable—become part of the shadow. Anything incompatible with our chosen conscious attitude about ourselves relegates to this dark side.

The personal shadow is the disowned self. This shadow self represents the parts of us we no longer claim to be our own, including inherent positive qualities. These unexamined or disowned parts of our personality don’t go anywhere. Although we deny them in our attempt to cast them out, we don’t get rid of them.

We repress them; they are part of our unconscious. Think of the unconscious as everything we are not conscious of.

We can’t eliminate the shadow. It stays with us as our dark partner. Trouble arises when we fail to see it. For then, to be sure, it is standing right behind us.

 

What Happens When You Repress Your Shadow

What happens to all the parts of ourselves we sweep out of view?

Whatever qualities we deny in ourselves, we see in others.

In psychology, this is called projection. We project onto others anything we bury within us.

I am way simplifying everything but it carries a depth like none and this sharing will unfortunately not suffice to womb it all.

 

Where does one start? What if you were to uncover that part of your unacknowledged self?

Sharing one of my exercises

Watch One’s Emotional Reactions

We tend to project our disowned parts onto other people.

One of the best ways to identify our shadow is to pay attention to our emotional reactions toward other people.

People in our environment might be aggressive, arrogant, inconsiderate, or impatient, but if we don’t have those same qualities within us, we won’t have a strong reaction to their behavior.

If we’re paying close attention, we can train ourselves to notice our shadow when we witness strong negative emotional responses to others.

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”- Carl Jung

Whatever bothers you in another is likely a disowned part within yourself.

Get to know that part, accept it, make it a part of you, and next time, it may not evoke a strong emotional charge when you observe it in another.

Focus on what and who evokes an emotional charge in you. It doesn’t matter what the emotion is; it’s a clue you are denying something within you.

And at times, the mirror might be for you to look into, come what may, pause and ask yourself where does this emotion lead you to?

What is it whispering to you? What is seeking to be acknowledged?

And most importantly reach out for support, seek facilitators, professionals and friends who will hold space for you as you go through whatever it is.

 

My deepest wish of “Shadowing” goes to you, me and us.

May our shadows rise to teach us the dance of our own ecstasy

May our shadows whisper so we may re-member the entirety of who we are

There no light without dark

There is no projective without receptive

As we churn so we alchemize

To many more years of whispers within without

 

Love from my heart to yours

 Megha Venketasamy

Daughters of Patriarchy

It is often said that Athena, the Goddess of War, The Patroness of the City, had no mother and she was born out of Zeus alone. Athena leaped from Zeus's head, fully grown, armed, and armored, and she would spend her entire life proving that she was worth being called Zeus’ daughter. Athena’s mother Metis, one of the Titans, a daughter of Oceanus and Tethys, would hardly ever be mentioned through centuries of human history.

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This account is not conflicting for the ancient Greeks believed that children were descendants of the fathers, while mothers did not contribute to the creation of their children.

This account is intertwined with the patriarchal system that we live in, a system where daughters are called, named and labelled as their “father’s daughter”.

This account tells my own story and that of many daughters of this world.

I was raised as my father’s daughter. Every moment of glory, every act of bravoure and every tiniest demonstration of wittiness were and are still being imprinted with my father’s name. From the beginning I have been referred to as “his daughter”. I have spent years proving that I was worth being called “HIS DAUGHTER”. My mother’s presence within my presence has been shadowed and despite my sense of self, I never questioned.

 

This récit ripples across the globe across culture, traditions, faces, names, colors and races.

 

Post one month to the 2nd Biennial Conference of She Stands Tall in Mauritius, I am gently emerging from my caving, pausing to soak within my words and I hold space for this truth:

I am just one of the daughters of a system whose mother has been denied of the acknowledgement that her daughter’s cells are made up of her, that her daughter’s beigness is imprinted with her beigness, that her daughter’s intuitive and cognitive intelligence descents from her legacy.

 

Patriarchy survives by placing authority and legitimacy of belongingness and lineage upon fathers. Most Women of our patriarchal system are ignorant of their matrilineal. Most Women of our patriarchal system operate as Athena from their head, we thrive and we strive to be proud objects and subjects of and for our fathers. Most Women of our patriarchal system have hardly any sense of identification with their mothers except from self-sacrificing, emotional care taking, over giving and submissiveness.

Most women from our patriarchal system invest and will invest in becoming unlike their self-sacrificing and over-giving mothers. I have spent years thriving to be something unlike “HER”. I have spent years running away from my body disconnects and my rhythms. And I know aware that we are endless on the same stride.

 

Weeks back I caught myself through my descend :

“Where is mother within me? How come I find no references of her within my system? When did this alienation happen? How did it happen? How has she lived this imposed disconnect for years? How painful and hurtful it is to be overturned from your legitimate place of the Wisdom Keeper, Magic Whisperer and Soul Healer in your daughter’s life?”

 

The act of being referred to as our “Fathers’ Daughters”, by default relegate our mothers to less of importance in our life. Many of you may not concur with my words, yet we live in a system that has rendered women to less of human, our references for beigness and success are attached to our fathers, while our mothers are symbolism of sacrifice, giving and caring.

 I am slowly growing into awareness of the wisdom that women from my lineage and beyond carry within. A wisdom that we daughters of patriarchy have been denied of. This denial is connected to the disconnects that our mothers are born of and from.

I have committed to go home to my mother, I still have no sense of how to live with this unacknowledged, un-embraced and untouched part of my self. I feel and I believe I am now walking home to my sacredness, readying myself for the 2020 Biennial Conference on the Lands of my ancestors surrounded and led by the Nayar.

Love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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