|An invitation to pause and to become present, through this presence to become aware of your experience and where these words lead you to. Remember it is only up to you to find that which you will recall yours.|

These past five years, I have sat in at least ten different ancestral healing sessions with different teachers and modalities. I went in with the intention to heal my ancestors. What to heal? Who to heal? How to heal?

I was out to heal my ancestors. I went in with the intention to continue the sorting and fixing of what keep showing up as dysfunctional, hindrances, blockages and leakages in my experiences and perceptions of life. I would bring the stories of my ancestry along and I would feel the pain of those who came before me and, in my innocence, I believed that it was up to me to do something about this pain, the trauma, the wounds, the rapes, the injustice experienced and so much more.

Maybe you are in such phase too. Maybe you are curious.

HEAR MY WORDS : I am in phase of my apprentice as a constellation facilitator and soon I will be offering family constellation services in Mauritius, here’s what I have learned and still learning through, within, inside and along this phenomenal journey that I am on.

We do not heal our ancestors. We do not heal anyone.

Then what do we do?

We learn to see our ancestors, to begin with our biological parents for what they are beyond our ideas of right and wrong. We see greatness in those who came before us. We see our ancestors beyond our ideas of their trauma, their stories, their successes and failures.

What do we see? Who do we see?

 We see the ones that were left behind, we see the dead, we see the hidden, we see the excluded, we see the murdered, we see the murderers, we see the victims, we see the perpetrators, we see those who are alive, we see those with whom we are in relating and in conflicts. We see them all and we give them an equal place.

Through this act of seeing and including, we all begin to ease and relax, then we start to experience the flow of love. Life came to us through a line and life is possible because of those who came before us.

There is greatness in our ancestors beyond our ideas of trauma, wrong, right, good and bad.

We see greatness of our ancestors.

What happens through this act of seeing?

By seeing, we include. We include “whatever it is” that was unseen, unmet, unheld, unembraced. Through this process of including, we become part of a bigger whole. We begin the process of gathering ourselves.

What are we gathering?

We are gathering parts and parcels of our autonomic nervous system back. We are gathering our autonomic power from within the collective autonomic nervous system. We are gathering the energy invested intelligently in survival for years and generations and now, this energy is ready for life for us.

It is presumptuous to believe that we can set on a journey to heal our ancestors.

We do not heal our ancestors. We cannot undo the past and we cannot rewrite history. Through the openings that are offered with the acts of seeing and including, we are offered spaces to receive different glimpses and perceptions of the past, of our ancestors. we begin to see the greatness, the togetherness, the love, the life in them.

For whom are ancestral rituals carried through?

For both our ancestors and for us. An act of remembering and agreeing to life as life came to us. An act of prayers for ourselves, may our lives be lived as new, for beyond our cognitions and beliefs, such is the wish of ancestors, that “the lives of their future generations be lived as new”.

We pause to remember and honor those who came before us, to begin with our parents. We pause to remember and honor beyond our ideas of wrong and right.

For many, these words will show up as resistance.

How can I honor him/her/them after what happened? If these words resonate for you, know that this is a place of love offered to you to look within, to meet that which you are holding on to, entangled with, judge to and loyal to.

There is much to say, I leave it here for me, you and us.

May we remember that in the unfolding of life, our ancestors are elders and it is not in the scheme of life for younger ones to fix the elders. The elders be and the younger ones find their way through life in honor and reverence.

The unfolding of newness comes to us through this act of seeing and including.

In honor of those who came before.

Love from my heart to yours

Love from my nervous system to yours

Love from my body to yours

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